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“Dear Jaime and Ryan, It has been several years now since your Dad left all of you. I remember him as a friend I got to know when he was a tour...Read More »
1 of 100+ | Posted by: Lydia Schuchman Hittle - IN

“Dear Susan, Jaime, Ryan.......It has now been a few years. I knew your husband and Dad and sent a letter at the time of his passing. Jaime and Ryan,...Read More »
2 of 100+ | Posted by: Lydia Hittle - Noblesville, IN

“Susan, I want to express my sincere sympathy for the loss of your husband. I learned of this through my daughter, Chandra Coffee. She is friends...Read More »
3 of 100+ | Posted by: Sue J. Hobson - Sellersburg, IN

“To the Backer family- I wanted to express again my sympathy to all of you. The service for Stephen was lovely and a wonderful tribute to him. You...Read More »
4 of 100+ | Posted by: Debra T Hahn - Indianapolis, IN

“Susan, I am so sorry to hear of Steve s passing, which I only just now read about in the Current in Carmel. Please also pass along my condolences to...Read More »
5 of 100+ | Posted by: Carolyn Bosserman - Carmel, IN

“Susan, I am Chetty Mamandur who lives directly across your house. My wife, Uma and I sympathize with you and your family. We haven t met many...Read More »
6 of 100+ | Posted by: Chetty Mamandur - Carmel, IN

“Steve was a great mentor and friend. I feel honored to have had such a unique gentleman cross my path in life. My deepest sympathy to Susan and the...Read More »
7 of 100+ | Posted by: Tricia Hackett - Carmel, IN

“Shirley, Susan, children and siblings of Steve: Please accept my most heartfelt condolences on your loss of a son, husband, father and brother. The...Read More »
8 of 100+ | Posted by: Tracy Smikle - Indianapolis, IN

“My heartfelt condolences to your family. ”
9 of 100+ | Posted by: Andy Noble - St Paul, MN

“Steve s time, ability and effort while on the IU Board of Trustees was invaluable to the university. ”
10 of 100+ | Posted by: Ray Richardson - Greenfield, IN

“Susan, My thoughts and prayers are with you and your children. I enjoyed working for Steve last year and he will truely be missed. God Bless, Mary...Read More »
11 of 100+ | Posted by: Mary Beatty - Nashville, TN

“Dear Susan, Not sure if you remember me from Bunko and tennis...just want you to know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. ...Read More »
12 of 100+ | Posted by: Kim Manlick - Carmel, IN

“The accolades that Mr. Backer accomplished in his life would take many others three or four lifetimes to do. He was a caring, giving and...Read More »
13 of 100+ | Posted by: Michael Lockard & Family - Carmel, IN

“I enjoyed working with Steve on the IU Board of Trustees and appreciate the opportunity I had to get to know him. He was a person of great integrity...Read More »
14 of 100+ | Posted by: Stephen L. Ferguson - Bloomington, IN

“Our thoughts and prayers are with the family. Steve will be missed. Susan and Phil Reel and family ”
15 of 100+ | Posted by: Susan and Phil Reel - Noblesville, IN

“We extend our sympathy and prayers to Steve s family and those fortunate enough to have been touched by his generosity. He gave so much of himself...Read More »
16 of 100+ | Posted by: Dick & Judy Hanzel - Indianapolis, IN

“My prayers and thoughts are with you and your family. You will be missed dearly. ”
17 of 100+ | Posted by: Susan Benge - Indianapolis, IN

“I had the privilege of working for Steve for many years. Steve was my employer who quickly became my friend - always interested in my life, always...Read More »
18 of 100+ | Posted by: Cindy Holtman - Carmel

“I was greatly saddened to hear of Steve s passing. He was a good man and a pleasure to work with over the years. My prayers and thoughts are with...Read More »
19 of 100+ | Posted by: Mark Fineberg - Indianapolis, IN

“Our thoughts and prayers are with the Backer Family. We are so sorry for your loss. Horvath Family Mike, Justine, Nick and Emily ”
20 of 100+ | Posted by: Justine Horvath - Westfield, IN

“My thoughts and prayers are with you during this tough time. ”
21 of 100+ | Posted by: Stacy Simms - Fishers, IN

“My thoughts and prayers are with all of your family. Fran Hageboeck Jaime and Ryan, I am thinking of you especially this day and will keep you in...Read More »
22 of 100+ | Posted by: Fran Hagebeock - Carmel, IN

“You all are in our thoughts and prayers. He will be missed! Elaine and Steve Stitle ”
23 of 100+ | Posted by: Elaine Stitle - Indianapolis, IN

“I was introduced to Steve about four years ago, I was a brand new commercial lender. Steve was always so humble, respectful and genuine. He had a...Read More »
24 of 100+ | Posted by: Jennifer Mathews Miner - Fishers, IN

“We send our deepest sympathy, and prayers for comfort. Andrew and Ellen Georgilis ”
25 of 100+ | Posted by: Andrew and Ellen Georgilis - OH

“Ryan: Your dad was a special man and I know you will miss him. My thoughts are with you. Margie Silver (Stacy Layton s mom) ”
26 of 100+ | Posted by: Margie Silver (Stacy Layton s mom) - IN

“Susan and family, A life well-lived leaves beautiful treasures. May these memories comfort you. You and your family are in our thoughts and prayers....Read More »
27 of 100+ | Posted by: Sally and Tom Schreck - FL

“Susan and Family, Doug and I are deeply saddened to hear of Steve s passing. He truly was a remarkable man. It was a pleasure being his paralegal at...Read More »
28 of 100+ | Posted by: Melissa Boval - Avon, IN

“I knew Steve quite well, having worked with him years ago, and then as a personal friend later. What a loss for so many, but especially for his...Read More »
29 of 100+ | Posted by: Patti - Greenfield, IN

“susan i was very sorry to hear of stephen s death although i had not seen him much lately i enjoyed cases with him he was a good lawyer and a good...Read More »
30 of 100+ | Posted by: preston breunig - indianapolis, IN

“Our hearts go out to all of you. I met Stephen while I was PTO President at College Wood. He was always very supportive of PTO and we always felt...Read More »
31 of 100+ | Posted by: Julie Washlock - Westfield, IN

“To Steve s entire family, We are deeply saddened by Steve s passing. We think of so many fond memories and the lifetime that Steve spent as a...Read More »
32 of 100+ | Posted by: Jeff Smulyan - Indianapolis, IN

“Susan, My heart goes out to you and your family at this extremely difficult time. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Jo Smith ”
33 of 100+ | Posted by: Johanna Smith - Carmel, IN

“As a highschool classmate and friend of Steves, I remember the great times we had together, school, parties, dances or just hanging around. As I ve...Read More »
34 of 100+ | Posted by: Stephen Walsmith - Indianapolis, IN

“I babysat for the 2 oldest kids when I was in High School. I frequently tell the story of how I fell so asleep that when your father woke me, I...Read More »
35 of 100+ | Posted by: Heather Beesley Grimes - CA

“Susan, At times such as these, words don't come easily nor do they make a lot of sense. When I heard of Steve's death, of course, it was a shock. ...Read More »
36 of 100+ | Posted by: Mark Axelrod - Tustin, CA

“My family and I offer our deepest condolences to the family of Mr. Backer. Stephen was a true gentlemen in every sense of the word, and we will miss...Read More »
37 of 100+ | Posted by: phil nichols - scottsdale, AZ

“Susan, words don t express my sadness at learning of your loss. I considered Steve a friend as well as a client. I always looked forward to...Read More »
38 of 100+ | Posted by: Stuart Prawat - Indianapolis, IN

“All of us at the IU School of Education were deeply saddened to learn about Steve s passing. He has been a wonderful friend to the School and to...Read More »
39 of 100+ | Posted by: Gerardo Gonzalez - Bloomington, IN

“I met Steven when I volunteered to work on the School Board campaign 3 years ago. This campaign was my first foray into School Corporation politics....Read More »
40 of 100+ | Posted by: Linda Withrow - Carmel, IN

“Susan and Family Our deepest thoughts and symphathy are with you and your family at this very difficult time. May time let you cherish your memories...Read More »
41 of 100+ | Posted by: Nicki Varma - Carmel, IN

“I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers to your wonderful family. ”
42 of 100+ | Posted by: gretchen cozzolino (carlson) - IN

“I have had the fortunate opportunity to work directly with Stephen at Backer & Backer over the past 5 years. In this short time, I have had the...Read More »
43 of 100+ | Posted by: Audrey Lawson - Fishers, IN

“Steve and I were good friends while at IU. I had not been in contact with him over the years, but I did know that he had a strong, loving family and...Read More »
44 of 100+ | Posted by: hugh sinnock - las vegas, NV

“We are sorry for your loss. ALthough we don t know your family well - we are making a contribution in Steve s memory to the school foundation. Being...Read More »
45 of 100+ | Posted by: Joe & JoEllen Kempler - Carmel, IN

“I was shocked and saddened to read of the untimely passing of fraternity brother Steve. Although we d not seen each other since our boys (Ryan and my...Read More »
46 of 100+ | Posted by: Arnie Lewin - Indianapolis, IN

“Jaime, I was so saddened to learn of your father s recent death. He was a prince of a man and you were so fortunate to have been his daughter. I...Read More »
47 of 100+ | Posted by: Cynthia Schick - Indianapolis, IN

“Our prayers and thoughts are with the entire Backer family. We are so sorry for your loss. The Jackson family Meggan, Jason and Evan Jackson ”
48 of 100+ | Posted by: Meggan Jackson - Fort Wayne, IN

“Stephen was much more than my attorney. He was a friend and teacher. He set such a great example for personal integrity, professional ability,...Read More »
49 of 100+ | Posted by: Greg Thomas - Noblesville, IN

“You and your family are in our thoughts and prayers. We wish you Peace. Dave & Marcie Carlton ”
50 of 100+ | Posted by: Dave & Marcie Carlton - FL

“Our thoughts and prayers our with the family of Steve. I can remember being in the 4th grade with Steve, junior high and high school. Always a ...Read More »
51 of 100+ | Posted by: Dick and Jody Wert - Indianapolis, IN

“A true professional and loving family man with a wonderful, caring, respectful and respectable soul will be missed on earth greatly and celebrated in...Read More »
52 of 100+ | Posted by: Jodi Herron - Surf City, NC

“Susan and family, Our condolences to you and your family. We were shocked and saddened to hear the news of your husband s passing. We will be...Read More »
53 of 100+ | Posted by: Macler Family - Indianapolis, IN

“It is with great sorrow that we heard of Steve s passing. I had used Steve on several legal matters and found him extremely competent and always a...Read More »
54 of 100+ | Posted by: Jerry Klapper & Beverly Klapper - IN

“Dear Susan and family, I m so saddened by Steve s passing. He was one of my favorite people. When we were working at your home I got a daily...Read More »
55 of 100+ | Posted by: Diane Cox - brownsburg, IN

“My heartfelt sympathy goes out to the family, friends, and associates of Mr. Backer. I truly enjoyed the privilege of working with him on a couple of...Read More »
56 of 100+ | Posted by: Bill Pritt - Indianapolis

“My condolences to the Backer family. I was Mr. Backer s FedEx driver, he always had a smile and was always nice. I m very sorry for you loss. ”
57 of 100+ | Posted by: Geoffrey Durham - Indianapolis, IN

“We are going to be miss you so very much. You were an asset to the legal profession and many of us looked up to you and the manner in which you...Read More »
58 of 100+ | Posted by: Judge Carr Darden - Indianapolis, IN

“My heartfelt condolences to all of Steve s Family members. Besides being my attorney, Steve was a racquetball opponent for 25 years. Steve talked...Read More »
59 of 100+ | Posted by: Tom McCalley - Carmel, IN

“Susan We will keep you and your family in our prayers and offer you our condolences on your loss. May God be with you. Joe Hein and Crew J S Hein...Read More »
60 of 100+ | Posted by: Joe Hein - Brownsburg, IN

“Susan and family, We are all so sorry... Steve s love for his family was obvious, and our prayers are with you during this difficult time. Steve...Read More »
61 of 100+ | Posted by: Leslie Jane Justus - Carmel, IN

“Steve was a long time friend,and a great lawyer and advisor who kept me out of trouble more than once. He also was a neophyte golfer who shared the...Read More »
62 of 100+ | Posted by: C. Willis Adams, III ( Pete) - IN

“Susan, Ben, Andrew, Ellie, and Backer Family: We are so saddened to hear of Steve s passing. He was a wonderful neighbor and devoted family man. His...Read More »
63 of 100+ | Posted by: Steve and Rita Dunn - Carmel, IN

“Susan, Ben, Andrew & Ellie, I am saddened to hear about the passing of Steve. He will be greatly missed by all. My thoughts and prayers are with you. ”
64 of 100+ | Posted by: Kari Bennett - Fishers, IN

“I had the priviledge of working with Steve on the Board of Trustees from 2001-2003. I got to know him as a thoughtful, caring and thorough leader...Read More »
65 of 100+ | Posted by: Sacha Willsey-Urban - St. Charles, IL

“Steve and my deceased son Richard were friends many years ago; and when Ruth and I lived in Indianapolis Herb and Shirley were also our dear friends....Read More »
66 of 100+ | Posted by: Bob Goldstein - Bloomington, IN

“Dearest Susan~ I am so so sorry for your loss! In the short time I knew Steven as a neighbor, he was always so kind to us all. He was a wonderful...Read More »
67 of 100+ | Posted by: Joann Forkin - Carmel, IN

“To the whole Backer family, I am so very saddened about the loss of Steve. My son, David, and Ryan spent many hours playing together in their younger...Read More »
68 of 100+ | Posted by: Christine Woodward-Duncan - IN

“Susan and family, We will miss seeing Steve,he was our neighbor, our lawyer, but most of all a friend.You have such a great support staff in your...Read More »
69 of 100+ | Posted by: Randy and Esther Fishman - Carmel, IN

“An excellent lawyer and a nice person!!! ”
70 of 100+ | Posted by: Robert G Weddle - Carmel, IN

“I am truly saddened by the loss of my fraternity brother and friend, Steve. My sympathies to Steve s family. ”
71 of 100+ | Posted by: Ken Silverman - Los Angeles, CA

“Our prayers and thoughts are with the family the Stephen loved so much. ”
72 of 100+ | Posted by: Dennis Dann - Indianapolis, IN

“Dear Shirley, Susan, Jaime, Ryan, Benjamin, Andrew and Elizabeth...... First of all, I want to send each and every one of you my very deepest...Read More »
73 of 100+ | Posted by: Judy Neuhaus Paul - Atlanta, GA

“Knowing Steve for over 15 years has been a true pleasure. While displaying his wit, humor and dedication, he did so with tremendous professionalism...Read More »
74 of 100+ | Posted by: Dale Ankrom - Indianapolis, IN

“Steve was one of the finest men I ever worked with during my four years in Indianapolis. He will be missed my many friends and associates of The...Read More »
75 of 100+ | Posted by: Major James Hoskin - Des Plaines, IL

“Steve s service to others will make a difference for this and future generations. His genuine commitment to helping others will remain as a hallmark...Read More »
76 of 100+ | Posted by: Robin Winston - Indianapolis, IN

“Dear Shirley, David, and the entire Backer family, I was so saddened to hear of the passing of Steve; I just saw him in Jan. at JCC; I told him to...Read More »
77 of 100+ | Posted by: gary koppel - indianapolis, IN

“Dear Susan and children, I feel your loss and pray for you all. Peter Rabbit School and I feel priviliged to have been a small part of your lives....Read More »
78 of 100+ | Posted by: Pam Mills - Indianapolis, IN

“Susan, words are never enough at a time like this. In the so very short time I ve been Steve s assistant, I quickly developed a level of high...Read More »
79 of 100+ | Posted by: Carla James - Carmel, IN

“To the entire family goes our heartfelt sorrow for your loss and the loss of the entire community. ”
80 of 100+ | Posted by: Shelley and Fred I. Frisch - IN

“Dearest Susan, I was so shocked to read of Steve s passing. You and the children will be in our thoughts and prayers. I will always remember Steve s...Read More »
81 of 100+ | Posted by: Anna Marie Marsh - Tucson, AZ

“Susan & family; I was sorry to learn of Steve s passing. He never mentioned his illness to me. I always enjoyed our saturday morning bike rides, pool...Read More »
82 of 100+ | Posted by: Rob Held - Carmel, IN

“Susan, I am so saddened to hear of your loss. I want you to know that you and your family are in my heart and prayers. May God comfort you! Kay...Read More »
83 of 100+ | Posted by: Kay Owsley - Campbellsburg, IN

“I m so sorry for your loss. I will always remember Mr. Backer as friendly, sincere, and compassionate. Your family is in my prayers. ”
84 of 100+ | Posted by: Kristin Inskeep - Carmel, IN

“I am deeply saddened to learn of Steve s passing. He was a deeply understanding and patient man and I will miss his expertise, patience and sense...Read More »
85 of 100+ | Posted by: Timothy Hightower - Indianapolis, IN

“My heart and prayers go out to Susan and the children. Steve was a great man and he will be missed by all. ”
86 of 100+ | Posted by: Tricia Wheeler - Salem, IN

“My heartfelt sympathy to all the members of the family. The Backer family has been a part of my life for sixty years and my thoughts and prayers go...Read More »
87 of 100+ | Posted by: Bobbe Rosenfield - Indianapolis, IN

“As a teacher for Carmel Clay Schools, I would like to express my sincere sympathy to Mr. Backer s family and appreciation for all his service to our...Read More »
88 of 100+ | Posted by: Kathryn Klein - Fishers, IN

“The fraters of Sigma Alpha Mu Fraternity express our deepest sympathies to the entire Backer family during this time of loss. Steve was a treasured...Read More »
89 of 100+ | Posted by: Sigma Alpha Mu Fraternity - IN

“My thoughts and prayers are with you, Jamie. I m so sorry for your loss. ”
90 of 100+ | Posted by: Katy Verble Saurer - Lithia, FL

“My deepest sympathy for the loss of Stephen. He will be sorely missed in this community. Bob Sternberger ”
91 of 100+ | Posted by: Robert Sternberger - Indianapolis, IN

“As classmates of Howie, Diana and I extend our condolences to the entire Backer family. Steve was always a neighbor I could count on and a genuinely...Read More »
92 of 100+ | Posted by: Steve Sternberger - Alpharetta, GA

“Susan, We were saddened to hear of Steve s passing. Know that our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this difficult time. Ann &...Read More »
93 of 100+ | Posted by: Ann & Jeff Meunier - Carmel, IN

“On behalf of the Muesing Management organization, please accept our heartfelt condolences. Steve was a good friend to Mr. Muesing and his...Read More »
94 of 100+ | Posted by: Kirby Kinghorn - Indianapolis, IN

“Susan and Family, We are so sorry for your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. Jim and Mike Warzniak and Family ”
95 of 100+ | Posted by: Michaelyn Warzniak - Carmel, IN

“Jaime, and family, When Stephen and I talked last month I was amazed with his dedication and commitment to help his clients. Keri and I share your...Read More »
96 of 100+ | Posted by: Benjamin Hunter - Indianapolis, IN

“A very unassuming yet outstanding lawyer and truy fantastic person. He will be missed. ”
97 of 100+ | Posted by: Lante Earnest - Indianapolis, IN

“When I think of Steve it will not be for all the very important positions he held in his life, of which there were many. It will be sitting in our...Read More »
98 of 100+ | Posted by: Kevin Rader - Carmel, IN

“I am so sorry for your loss and shocked that it has happened. I know you will miss him greatly. I served with Steve on the CCS school board from...Read More »
99 of 100+ | Posted by: Joe Miller - Carmel, IN

“Stephen was a wonderful man and a very loyal customer of mine for 3 years at Salon01. I always looked forward to our Saturday morning chats every 3...Read More »
100 of 100+ | Posted by: michelle gabay - columbus, OH

Stephen A. Backer 63, of Carmel, Indiana, passed away Sunday morning, March 15, 2009 at St. Vincent Hospital in Indianapolis, Indiana after a brief illness. Mr. Backer is the current president of the Carmel Clay School Board and served two terms as a member of the Indiana University Board of Trustees. Mr. Backer was born Feb. 28, 1946 in Indianapolis, Indiana to father Herbert J. Backer and mother Shirley Altfeld Backer, who survives. Mr. Backer is also survived by his wife, Susan Hedrick Backer, and his children, Jaime Miller (Brent), Ryan, Benjamin, Andrew and Elizabeth; brothers Dr. Howard Backer (Anita) and David Backer (Suzan); and grandchildren Samuel and Alexander Miller. Mr. Backer graduated from North Central High School in Indianapolis in 1964. He earned his undergraduate degree from Indiana University in 1968 and his law degree from Indiana University in 1971. While at IU, he was a member of the Sigma Alpha Mu fraternity and the Student Athletic Board. An avid outdoorsman, he helped work his way through IU as a travel and tour guide. Mr. Backer was a member of the Indianapolis Hebrew Congregation. He practiced law his entire professional career at Backer and Backer PC after working as deputy prosecutor in Marion County. He was appointed to the Indiana Lottery Commission by Gov. Evan Bayh and was a volunteer and board member of Big Brothers Big Sisters of Central Indiana. Mr. Backer s community and civic involvement also included serving as a former member of the Hasten Hebrew Academy Board of Directors; Indianapolis Hebrew Congregation Board of Directors; Broadmoor Country Club Board of Directors; Indiana State Criminal Justice Institute, Juvenile Task Force; Carmel Clay Park and Recreation Board; Indiana Gambling Impact Commission; and the Central Indiana Community Foundation Legacy Fund. He was named a Sagamore of the Wabash by Gov. Evan Bayh and Gov. Frank O Bannon. He was a current member of the National Board of Visitors to the Indiana University School of Education; Corporate Board of Directors, Salin Bank and Trust Company; Indiana University Alumni Association; Indiana University Varsity Club; Indiana University Well House Society; and the Indianapolis, Indiana State and American bar associations. Steve was an accomplished, respected attorney who never missed an Indiana University home football or basketball game and was a frequent visitor to the press box during Carmel Greyhound football games. Despite his myriad community and civic accomplishments, his mission in life was his family and children. His sons will miss their dad and their annual "boys trips," with recent destinations that included the Canadian Rockies, Montana and Utah. The funeral will take place at 1 p.m. on Wednesday, March 18, 2009 at Oak Hill Mansion, 5801 E. 116th St., Carmel, Indiana with Rabbi Jonathan Adland and the Rev. Dr. William M. Schwein officiating. Calling will take place two hours before the service. Burial will follow the service at Crown Hill Cemetery, 700 West 38th Street, Indianapolis. The family wishes to thank the staff of St. Vincent Hospital, especially Drs. Bihiray, Josephson, Ramsey and Ratzman, who provided exemplary care, compassion and concern. Memorial contributions may be made to The Jacobs School of Music at Indiana University, 1201 E. Third St., Merrill Hall 003, Bloomington, Indiana 47405 or the Carmel Clay Education Foundation, 5201 E. 131st St., Carmel, Indiana 46033. Mr. Backer s online guest book may be viewed and signed at: Arrangements: Flanner & Buchanan Funeral Center Carmel.